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Questions from mothers who decide not to breastfeed

There are many reasons why mothers have to stop breastfeeding, which is always upsetting. The most common ones are lack of help, confusing and contradictory information about it and inexperience. Here are some significant testimonials together with the opinion of the experts.

 

You don't need to feel guilty.

I wasn't able to breastfeed my child because I didn't have any milk, which upset me and made me feel guilty. Why doesn't anyone tell you that mothers shouldn't be blamed if they can't breastfeed, not because they don't want to because they are unable to?

In many cases, when a mother stops breastfeeding her little one, the problem lies with a lack of correct information and competent help, and not with agalactia or lack of milk, which is very rare. The worst thing, though, is that the mother ends up blaming herself because she "feels" vaguely as if something was not going right, but because she does not know who to attribute this responsibility to, she blames herself. And this is mainly due to a lack of efficient information.

In the past, the situation was very different because when a girl reached childbearing age she had the chance to see how other mothers cared for children of all ages. Within the context of an extended family, you had an example to follow when learning how to be a mother. However, nowadays mothers try to obtain information from pre-natal classes, magazines and books, which often give misleading messages that leave them even more confused.

 

Neglected mothers.

When I was discharged, they told me that my milk would come in straight away. However, when I got home my son was crying and he kept on crying the next day, so I went back to the hospital and they admitted the baby because he was dehydrated. Why doesn't anyone control and help first-time mothers? Couldn't they be told how to complement breastfeeding during the first few days?

Before being discharged, all mothers should obtain the necessary information to understand whether their milk is coming in and whether their child is all right while waiting for the milk to come in.

In most cases, the milk comes in during the baby's first week of life. However, sometimes it can take longer and can even come in 10 to 12 days later. There are also certain situations that may require more exhaustive checks to be carried out. There are babies who have trouble taking to the breast due to relationship problems or for mechanical reasons, such as difficulty coordinating sucking. Another example is babies with gastro-oesophageal reflux, who suffer from discomfort after feeds. In the face of all these difficulties, it is important to identify and deal with the real problems and then decide on either formula milk or breast milk.